We all game differently. While playing a board game, roleplaying it up, or playing a video game online, chances are we are playing something while in a group. And not all groups are the same. In my board gaming group (going on nine years now) everyone at the table has a fairly strong personality. This carries over to my roleplaying group as a lot of us are in both groups. However, this isn’t the case for all groups all the time. Sometimes we are thrown into a different situation and we have to adapt to those around us.
This adaptation can be as simple as toning down the amount of curse words; I admit, I have a pretty dirty vocabulary at the gaming table. However, if I am with a group where they don’t appreciate colorful language, or there are kids around, I need to tone it down and I do. I do not complain about it and the group doesn’t need to keep reminding me about it either. I do it because it is polite and I want to keep gaming.
This carries over into roleplaying groups as well. Not everyone in the group can be super boisterous all the time. Depending on what everyone is playing, we might need to drastically tone down our conversations in and out of character so someone else can have their turn in the spotlight. Some GMs might not appreciate a lot of side talk while roleplaying is happening. Others might require you to pay very close attention to what is going on as they will only give you a few seconds to decide what your character is going to do on their turn. Again, this requires us to adapt to the situation.
This carries over into games like WoW too. During MoP while we were working on taking down Garrosh for the first time, the guild, as a whole, was on edge and didn’t appreciate screw-ups. There was very little chatter at all while we were attempting bosses we hadn’t killed yet. However, after we took down Garrosh and everyone one else quit until WoD, the new guild I joined was all about messing around. They had taken down everything on a more difficult tier so they were more about having fun and helping everyone else out. It was incredibly fun raiding with them. Everyone was constantly throwing out jokes or saying complete nonsensical things to get a laugh. The raid leader would even modulate his voice to add to the entertainment. Had I ran with them with the mindset I during my old guild’s first Garrosh kill, I wouldn’t have had as much fun. I had to adapt to their playstyle.
When heading to a gaming convention or trying to get into competitive play, multiply this need to adapt 100 fold as you will encounter all sorts of different people with a wide variety of personalities. My friends who go to gaming conventions always share stories about some of the people they met at the gaming table. They would go from wisecracking at one table to complete silence at the next. They were always adapting to their fluctuating situation.
The adaptability you can learn from gaming with different groups is invaluable in everyday life. If you are trying to branch out and experience new things and meet new people, finding a gaming group might be the way to go. You’ll have something in common with the new people and you all will be there for the same thing; gaming.
What is your experience with different gaming groups? Were some very open and joking often, while others were very on point and serious? Please leave a comment and/or share on Twitter.